How to Find a Birth Mother to Adopt from in S.C.

Maybe the most important part of your adoption process is the step where you find a birth mother to adopt from in South Carolina. This decision will impact your entire domestic adoption, so we want to make sure you’re 100 percent confident in the prospective birth parents you find through the Law Offices of James Fletcher Thompson.

But how exactly do you find the perfect match, and what do our professionals do to help with this step?

Unlike some adoption law firms, we provide matching services between prospective birth parents and adoptive parents in-house. That means that you don’t have to outsource these services to an adoption agency and, with our expansive knowledge and experience in handling relationships between adoptive parents and birth parents, we’ll make sure every match is in the best interest of all involved.

To give you a better idea of how to find a birth mother to adopt from, here are the steps we take at the Law Offices of James Fletcher Thompson:

  1. Determine your preferences — As a prospective adoptive parent, you have the right to decide what kind of adoption situations are right for your family. These include your preparedness in regards to a child’s potential prenatal exposures and potential special needs, the race of the child, the amount of contact you’ll have with the birth family and more.

Keep in mind: Being too restrictive in your preferences could increase the amount of time you wait to be matched with a potential birth mother. Our social workers can discuss with you the potential effects of your birth mother preferences and help you understand how you can reduce your adoption wait time.

  1. Create an Adoptive Family Profile — After you have an approved home study, you will need to create an Adoptive Family Profile for prospective birth mothers to view. This will be a brochure or book of sorts with non-identifying information, where you can explain to a prospective mother why you would be good adoptive parents to her child. It will also give her a better idea of your community, your family makeup, your family lifestyle and the way you will honor her adoption decision and talk to your child about adoption issues in the future.

This will be the first impression a prospective birth mother will have of you, so it’s important that you take the proper time and effort to create a well thought-out profile. Our social workers can provide you examples of good adoptive family profiles and, if necessary, talk with you about your thoughts and ideas regarding your specific family profile book. We will also give you the option of putting your profile on our website to make it visible to more prospective birth mothers.

When a potential birth mother views your profile, it will be with one of our social workers, who can answer her questions and help make sure that the match between you will be perfect.

  1. Meet with the prospective birth mother — After a prospective birth mother expresses interest in your profile, we will discuss the specific adoption opportunity with you in greater detail. If this feels like the right situation for your family, we will usually set up an in-person meeting with you, the prospective birth family and one of our social workers.  These meetings are a great opportunity to get to know each other a little more and discuss any particular expectations in regards to taking the next steps in the adoption process.

Why Our Matching System Works

Finding an adoption opportunity can be a complicated process, but worrying about how to find a birth mother for private adoption shouldn’t dissuade you from adoption. At our law offices, we can make it an easy process for you. With nearly 30 years of experience matching birth mothers and adoptive families, our first goal is to make sure each adoptive family is matched with the right prospective birth family for their situation — and vice versa.

Our social workers will work closely with you and prospective birth parents to fully understand your situation, preferences and needs. Our goal is to only present your family profile to birth parents in situations that fit your preferences.  Because each situation is different, even when we think it may the right fit for your family, you will be under no pressure to agree to a prospective birth parent situation that makes you uncomfortable.

Finding a birth mother to adopt from in South Carolina can be an exhausting and emotional process, but we will be here to help you through this process in any way we can — whether by providing you emotional counseling or resources to help you better understand different birth mother situations.

Other Ways to Find a Birth Mother to Adopt From

While our matching program can provide a smooth and supportive process for finding a birth parent in South Carolina, we also can help you complete an adoption if you choose to find a birth mother to adopt from in another way. While you will not need our matching services, you’ll still need an experienced law professional like attorney Jim Thompson to finalize your adoption.

  1. Finding a potential birth mother through an adoption agency — If you choose to work with an adoption agency, they will likely provide the same sort of matching services that we do at our law offices. However, because not all adoption agencies have in-house lawyers, you may need to hire a separate adoption attorney to complete the legal side of your adoption (including birth mother expenses, consent forms and finalizing the adoption). We are happy to complete the legal aspects of any agency adoption, and we can offer you a free consultation to assess the legal risks associated with things like the Indian Child Welfare Act, the Interstate Compact on the Placement of Children and any birth father rights and responsibilities.
  2. Finding a birth mother on your own — In some cases, you may already have a potential birth mother in mind for your adoption. These are known as independent or identified adoptions, and you will need experienced legal counsel like the Law Offices of James Fletcher Thompson to complete yours. Usually, adoptive families find a birth mother to adopt from in South Carolina for these adoptions through personal connections, social networks or other sources. If you already have a prospective birth mother in mind, an independent adoption may help you expedite your adoption process.

Find a Birth Mother to Adopt from Today

If you need any assistance on how to find a birth mother to adopt from in a private adoption in South Carolina, we can provide you all the matching services you need to begin your successful adoption process. To discuss our adoption matching program and your personal adoption options in more detail, please speak with one of our adoption specialists today at 864-573-5533 or contact us online.