Learning of an unplanned pregnancy is often a frightening experience for women, not because of the pregnancy itself, but because of the looming decision it presents.
If you find yourself in this situation, and you don’t feel ready to parent your child at this time in your life, you likely know about one of your options, but how much do you know about your other option – adoption?
Let’s briefly, and most importantly, honestly compare the decision of adoption and abortion.
Comparing Your Options
Our firm’s goal is to empower women to consider all of their options when facing an unplanned pregnancy. We aren’t here to tell you which option is right or wrong – we are here to present you the facts about adoption and abortion to help you make this decision.
Planned Parenthood’s latest report disclosed that they made just one adoption referral for every 160 abortions they completed. This is actually higher from a previous report where the ratio was 149:1.
While abortion will always be the overwhelmingly more common choice than adoption, we do often wonder: What if more of these women really understood what adoption is all about? Would these lopsided figures remain the same, or would more women begin choosing adoption over abortion?
Let’s look at a few of the most common misconceptions of adoption and abortion, some of which might surprise you.
Misconceptions about Abortion and Adoption
- Abortion is the less expensive option – Depending on how far you are into your pregnancy, an abortion can range between $800 for an abortion pill or upwards of $1,500 for an in-clinic procedure. Conversely, women who choose adoption have their adoption services covered 100 percent by the adoptive family, and they are also often eligible to receive financial assistance in the form of living expenses.
- Parents have to be involved in an adoption and not in an abortion – This is actually the opposite, as most states including South Carolina allow minors to legally consent to adoption without their parents’ approval. Conversely, abortion often requires the consent of at least one parent or a judge’s approval.
- Abortion is the easier decision from which to move on– There is no doubt that both options are extremely difficult. We’ve heard concerns from women we’ve worked with about how difficult it would be having a child living with another family in another part of South Carolina or another state altogether. While these feelings are completely valid, we have found that receiving pictures and letters or any additional contact from her child, while still difficult at times, can end up actually being a positive in her life. Therefore, it can be argued that both options, not just abortion, provide the ability for women to resumenormal, happy lives.
Speaking with so many women facing unintended pregnancies, we’ve learned that abortion is often considered an immediate resolution to the issue. Indeed, it certainly is a quicker process than nine months of pregnancy and the adoption process, but we have seen firsthand unbelievable success stories with the women who opted for adoptions over abortions.
This article is not intended to sway your decision one way or another. It is intended to present adoption in a few ways in which you may have not yet realized. What you do with this information is entirely up to you and your family.
If you’d like to speak more about this topic of whether abortion or adoption is right for your situation, we would love to speak with you. Please contact us today confidentially and with absolutely no obligation.