Why It’s Never Too Late to Choose Adoption for Your Child

If you considering adoption, you know more than anyone else that making an adoption decision doesn’t happen overnight. For some, this process requires several days or weeks, but for others it requires months of thought, research, self-reflection and patience before coming to a decision.

So, if you are late in your pregnancy and feel like you are running out of time to make a decision, we will tell you the same thing we’ve told hundreds others: don’t worry because it’s never too late to choose adoption.

 

How is the Process Different for a Last-Minute Adoption Plan?

Whether you are late in your pregnancy or even if your baby has already been born, the following largely remain the same for a last-minute adoption:

  • Finding a Family – Whether you are days away from your due date, at the hospital, or even after your baby has been born, you still have 100 percent control in who becomes your baby’s forever family. Your social worker will get to know you and will present you with our adopting parents’ profiles who match your wishes. But remember, even though time may be limited, we don’t want you to rush to choose a family because there is no legal deadline.
  • Financial Assistance – Your adoption will still cost you nothing financially, as the adopting family will cover all of your medical, legal and counseling expenses. Furthermore, if you choose to work with our firm, attorney Jim Thompson will help you receive living expenses allowed by South Carolina adoption law based on your circumstances.
  • Support – No matter when you consider adoption, we will be with you every step of the way. We have social workers throughout South Carolina who will help answer any of your questions, help you with everyday tasks, assist you with finding the perfect adoptive family, be there for you at the hospital, and support you as long as you need after the adoption is completed.

 

Examples of Last-Minute Adoption Plans

Here are some of the scenarios in which the Law Offices of James Fletcher Thompson have assisted women who feared it was too late to choose adoption:

Mom is a few weeks away or less from her due date – The most common last-minute adoptions are of women who’ve decided on adoption and are mere days away from giving birth. As indicated above, there isn’t much difference between these situations and the women who choose adoption early in their pregnancies.

Mom is at the hospital – While not as common, mothers have contacted us from the hospital and even from their hospital beds, ready to move forward with an adoption plan. Some already have an adopting family in mind, while others require our services to help them find that perfect family.

Baby has already been born, or is several weeks or months old – There are scenarios where the mother may have initially considered adoption but ultimately chose to parent. However, after weeks or months of parenting, the challenges she was afraid of are too great. She may choose to pursue a private adoption with our firm we can help legally complete. While these situations are extremely difficult emotionally, and rare, they can and do happen.

 

Do I have to take the baby home while I am considering adoption?

When we are contacted by expectant mothers who are close to their due date or at the hospital and considering a last-minute adoption, we are often asked if they have to take the baby home because they waited to reach out to us. The answer to that question is no.

It is our goal for a mother to make a decision for her child that she feels confident about, whether that be adoption or parenting. If, after the child is born, you feel you need more time to consider your options, we can provide “cradle care” for your baby at no cost to you. Cradle care is a term we use for families that work for our law firm who can provide a safe place for your baby while you take the time you need to make an informed decision. These families do not work for DSS. If you decide that adoption is the best decision, your baby can be placed with the adoptive family you selected. If you decide to parent your baby, we can return the child to you.

Everyone and every situation is different.  Because of this, there is not a “best” time to make a final decision about adoption.  The legal and procedural aspects remain the same, so it is never too late to choose adoption. An adoption plan can be considered at any point during your pregnancy without being legally bound to that outcome.

 

We are here for you regardless of how early or far along you are in your pregnancy or how old your child currently is. We can help you find the right situation for you and your child.

Contact us today confidentially and with no obligation to receive more information about how we can help.